I constantly hear people define themselves by one character trait. (Fat, alcoholic, intelligent, Christian.) Good or bad they usually focus on one thing about themselves so much that’s the only thing they talk about.
A lot of that comes from a superficial judgmental society. Putting a microscope to the thing you hate or love the most until it becomes what you are. “Don’t trust anything Dave say’s! He did drugs, you just can’t trust those people. Now here’s some statistics I’ll paraphrase from a meme I saw on Facebook.”
Even though Dave did drugs in his early twenties, and is now 45 years old, and hasn’t touched a drug since.
People are so much more then they’re ever given credit. We are a product of our environment. Literally history in the making. A genetic tree over thousands of years of ancestry bleeding into each and everyone of us. What we consume food, art, media. 7 billion stories are unfolding every day and you’re apart of it. Never let anyone make you feel inferior.
Once you realize that most people will degrade everything you want to achieve because they can’t put themselves in your shoes or anyone else’s. You’ll get confidence in knowing that person who tells you can’t hasn’t seen all the possibilities nor taken the steps to achieve those goals. The confidence comes from you and you alone. You no longer need anyone else’s approval.
There’ll come a time when the confidence slows down and just sort of trickles out, and you’ll seek the opinions of someone else. Who will tell you that it’s a pipe dream. Maybe they don’t and ignite the flame to grow even larger.
Whether they support you or not doesn’t matter. they’re your goals, you have to put in the work not them. So there opinion shouldn’t effect anything. Easier said then done I know. I’m trying to write a novel while starting over in a new state with no family or friends.
When those bills come knocking I ask for more over time. While I’m spending extra time at a mediocre job. I feel like I’m betraying my real passion. People tell me. “Some people publish their first book at 40.” Their good intentions a side, that doesn’t make me feel better at all. I love creating worlds and character building. Weaving a story between them. It gives me life. Where as my 9 to 5 drains the soul out of me. Don’t get me wrong I’ve had way worse jobs. But it definitely leaves more to be desired, writing fulfills that void wholeheartedly.
So continue onward! Now that you have an image of a better version of yourself. If you quit now, that image will haunt you until the day you die. I’d wish you good luck but you don’t need it. You know what you want. Go achieve it.