When I got into the workforce at the age of 13 I was always told, “hands out of pockets!” It really annoyed me. I had long arms I didn’t know what to do with. A home rule at least while I was living with my dad in the summer. “Get your elbows off the table.” I didn’t get that one. “Sit up straight.” While at a restaurant. “Put your napkin on your lap.” All these goddamn rules! I complained in my mind. Not wanting a lecture.
I’ve been listening to a book called ‘no plan B.’ I’m on a chapter called predators. Here the author talks about body language. It really took me back to when I was a kid and broke down why it was imperative to be confident and secure in a way nobody would explain to me in a way that made me care.
That book made me realize the importance of how we present ourselves opens a lot of doors.
You ever watch a lion walk. It might sound silly. But you know who doesn’t think its silly. Which ever animals broken neck he has between his teeth.
When a lion walks there isn’t an ounce of doubt what needs to be done. Then he does it.
You ever see a beta lion. “Gee I hope this zebra doesn’t think I’m too aggressive. I’m just trying to get by.” No you haven’t. Lions walk in their territory knowing they’re 300 pounds of muscle, fur, and teeth. They’re beasts and they know it.
When I do a job. I can walk in with my head held high. Because my work ethic is impeccable. My coworkers know it. My employers know it. That gives me the ability to stand tall amongst the complainers and nay sayers.
Thats also what makes great leaders. Think back to any boss you ever disliked. Was he this type. “I’m in charge here! You understand me? Me, I’m in charge here! Me.” Or was he this type of boss. “Alright here’s the plan. If this happens then we’ll just have to do this instead, but that shouldn’t be a problem. I had these guys working on it last week.” My guess is the first.
Going back to “hands out of pockets!” This gesture looks like you’re standing idly by while all your coworkers put in all the work. You may not be confident because your new and intimidated. You know how gain confidence. Jumping in and doing something. You might be slow. You mighit be sloppy. But you found your kill and pounced on it. Once you do it enough times. You’ll get better. Repition, repetition, repetition.
Posture is a health issue. Preventing hunch back, spinal issues or a slipped disk your later years. Standing tall also let’s people know your strong confident person. Kind of a given.
When your young slouching sure is comfortable. Also let’s the adults know your edgy and don’t care. As an adult if your trying to show your peers how edgy you are. You’re probably going to be in constant rotation of jobs.
I just thought that chapter was interesting so I thought I’d take the time to reflect on some of the lessons I learned from my own life.
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