In a world of two mentalities of good vibes where people dismiss all negativity and people crying out for mental health awareness. I think the world needs to take into consideration that everyone doesn’t live the same life. Some are hit with numerous tragedies. Which lead them towards cynical views of the world. “A man sees in the world what he carries in his heart.” Imagine Mary Todd Lincoln, Abraham Lincoln’s wife. She is notorious for being crazy. Which this perspective is a rather lazy claim. She had four children and only one survived. Let’s not forget what happened to her husband. Was she crazy? Probably. If everyone you loved was killed and you had to carry on. You might have some coping issues as well.
I write this not comparing two trends, but merely trying to meet in the middle. Yes life is hard. But there is beauty in our struggles. Defeat makes our victories all the sweeter. But at the same time I feel its only fair to feel empathy towards those who have fallen on hard times. On the same note I think it is also fair to remind those same people that you must make an effort to find passion and goals. Maybe a routine of sorts. To burden those around you because your wallowing in self pity is like standing in the corner screaming the seconds as they pass by. What solution will you get from that?
“Certainly the most destructive vice if you like, that a person can have. More than pride, which is supposedly the number one of the cardinal sins – is self pity. Self pity is the worst possible emotion anyone can have. And the most destructive. It is, to slightly paraphrase what Wilde said about hatred, and I think actually hatred’s a subset of self pity and not the other way around – ‘ It destroys everything around it, except itself ‘. Stephen Fry